Everybody knows the feeling: the word “feedback” enters the conversation, and instantly you can recall every error you’ve ever made since the third grade.
While this reaction to feedback is standard, a staple of successful individuals is the capacity to process negative feedback positively and objectively.
Consider these four tips in making the very best out of tough feedback:
Disassociate the Feedback from its Source
Feedback can often feel imposing when given by an individual in authority. If an employee is feeling frustration toward their manager, for example, those feelings will often convolute the feedback. The capability of a person to disassociate the source of feedback from the actual critique is a defining habit in processing feedback objectively. Feedback stripped of bias is just information: information that can be used to improve your character!
Have a “For What It’s Worth” Attitude
Everyone has been subject to feedback that may seem superfluous. Rather than dismiss the feedback as unobservant, consider its value even as it stands. Those with an eagerness to grow will seek opportunities in whatever medium—including feedback that seems to do you little good.
Understand the Feedback as an Expression of Belief
A successful leader will distribute feedback out of a sincere concern for his or her associates: an (admittedly generous) attitude can be formed that all leaders follow this suit. When feedback is viewed as an expression of belief in your potential, the information becomes contributive rather than critical. If this attitude is adopted regularly, you even find yourself craving feedback!
Delay your Initial Response
Like ripping off a band-aid, feedback typically stings the most immediately after it is given. Though it’s tempting in the moment to respond with an extensive list of all the feedback-giver’s major life mistakes, exercising self-control can save you a relationship, and a chance at growth. Delaying any kind of initial frustration will ensure that your response is not entirely emotional. Once the surprise of the moment has passed, you’ll often find the wisdom in the feedback being offered—wisdom that would have been lost if a response of impulsiveness was made.
If utilized, feedback can be an asset that defines your career. Adversely, denying the benefits of feedback is an inevitable means to stagnation, and often frustration. Call on these tips to make the most of your career growth!